Whether I'm single at the moment or lost in love, here's what usually appeals to me.
First things first... I'll start with what I'm not. I'm not a teen boy in his parent's basement. I'm not a playa playa looking to hit it and quit it (always wanted to use that). I'm not religious, nor am I an Atheist. I'm not a smoker and have never done drugs. I'm not tall. I don't drive a Benz or talk on my cell when others are around. I'm not even from here (born and raised in Chicago). I don't have BO or call other guys "bro." I don't send dick pics (well... at least not until, or unless, you've requested one... but just a warning: you can't unsee it). I'm not someone who takes a girl out to dinner and splits the bill (I believe the man should always pay... unless she's incredibly rich, in which case I will give her my personal cell and we can get married tomorrow). I'm not a big sports guy (I'd rather watch my girl than a bunch of guys playing with their balls). I'm not into games or serial dating (translation: if she has a date each night of the week, I'm not the right guy for her). I'd rather get to know her and THEN meet for drinks, if the chemistry is there. I'm not haunted by a troubled childhood. I'm not a closet racist. I don't struggle with intimacy issues... or how to express myself, emotionally. I'm not a vegan, nor do I eat a lot of meat (fish mostly, but I balance it out). I'm not put off by PDA... unless she's trying to go down on me in the check-out line at Target (at least wait until we're in the car). I'm not a fan of people who drop the f-bomb in public (especially with little kids around). I'm not an OCD freak, although I do think Lysol Wipes are the greatest thing ever.
Ok... enough of what I'm not. Here's what I AM. I'm a 16-year-old boy who wants to bang as many women as possible... when I'm not getting high or, um... wait. That didn't come out right. Let's start over. I'm part German, though I don’t speak it. I’m 51, moved out here from Chicago back in 2002, and work as a project manager for a large, global company. I'm a fairly self-aware individual. I'm acutely aware of my strengths and weaknesses (I mean if I had any). I'm reasonably fit, though I'm a few cheeseburgers heavier these days. I'm a Virgo. I'm extremely open-minded (we'll leave it at that for now). I spend way too much time at Room & Board and Crate & Barrel. I'm a bit of a tech geek and love to trial new apps and gadgets. I'm a foodie who loves to cook and eat out (and post poorly-written Yelp reviews). I like good wine, whisky and imperial stouts (the higher the ABV, the better). I'm a moderate, politically... but I rarely talk politics. I prefer to take things slow, and I'm certainly in no rush for anything to happen. Nothing wrong with good conversation and getting to know someone.
The ideal woman, to me, is a bit of an enigma - a 3-dimensional muse who can't easily be categorized. She's smart, sweet, sexual, and a bunch of things that don't start with the letter "S." Speaking of sex, full disclosure... if she's a prude or haunted by Catholic guilt, it's not going to work. I'm pretty transparent. I guess that appeals to me... someone who's an open book. I don't care if she's 3 miles from me or halfway around the world. I'd rather meet someone amazing than just amazingly close. Above all, it's always nice to make a great friend. A cuddle buddy is even better. If there's something there... wonderful. No expectations, though. Ever.